Comments on: It’s not Commitment that Men are Afraid of

By: Kavan Wolfe

Kavan Wolfe — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 16:39:35 +0000

@Kee, you make good points, but I don’t think you can justify “Women are more willing to compromise than men are.”

@FireZs, you who? Me? Being a straight male, that’s not really my concern.

By: FireZs

FireZs — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 18:03:03 +0000

Men aren’t afraid of commitment; they’re afraid of commitment TO YOU.

By: Kee

Kee — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 23:08:08 +0000

Oh, what a vicious cycle. Walmart does suck though.

A girlfriend initially believes that she can overlook the things she doesn’t actually like about her boyfriend (this could be anything from sex to his bathroom wallpaper). Eventually she realizes she can’t, but by then she has made The Commitment. She feels trapped, therefore she feels depressed, therefore about half the symptoms on your list.

A man has two primary examples of women in his life: his girlfriend, and his mother. As the relationship goes on, he sees his girlfriend becoming more and more like his mother. After all, his mother must once have been his father’s girlfriend, until the same thing happened to her. And no matter how strongly a man feels about his mother, he doesn’t want to date her (most men, anyway).

Women are more willing to compromise than men are. The girlfriend feels she is compromising on a lot of things for her boyfriend, so he should compromise for her–hence the favorite shirt, chair, porno, and buddies. When he turns out to be more stubborn that that, her reaction is to stop compromising for him–the going out, the sexy underwear, the dressing up.

A woman also feels that she needs to do more work when pursuing/dating a man than when she has reasonable assurance she’s already got him.

It’s okay. The whole dating world is just fucked up, whether you’re gay or straight.

By: H

Thu, 10 Jan 2008 18:39:02 +0000

Perfectly reasonable. That’s whay the women disagree.

Oooh boy. I’ll get flamed for that one….

… but bring it on.

You’ll most definitely prove me right about my opinions on the way women think.

By: Angelika

Angelika — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 10:15:11 +0000

Please, notice, that I did not call any problem pathetic. I don’t see a problem there, all I see is a man whining about having a relationship and not liking one bit of it, unless there is lots of sex in it.
What I called pathetic is that list of yours. You have very high expectations and I just hope you are as gorgeous and faithful as Kim pointed out you would have to be to impose all those expectations on your partner.